Last night, one of my friends was talking about how at this time in her life, the people she thought would be there for her weren't and the people that were in her life were unexpected. It is strange, this thing called time that weaves in and out the people in our lives like stitches on a quilt.
In my deepest of hearts, I believe that people are in your life for a reason and once that purpose is done, they are eclipsed. It isn't that they don't exist anymore, it is just that the universe has called them to do something else.
A few things that took me years to understand are that I have changed, am constantly changing and will change. My definitions of life, love and friendship when I was six, eighteen, twenty-five and today have similarities but have evolved as I have evolved. My expectations from people have changed because I am more concerned with the expectations I have for myself. My focus has shifted from analyzing the bad in relationships to appreciating what and who brings love and light to my life.
I have also learned to acknowledge the best friend that I have often ignored and ridiculed repeatedly--the one that never leaves and is always there...Me. I am one of my best friends and it feels awkward writing that but I believe that we often forget that the face staring back at us in the mirror is a face of love, hope, promise and compassion.
Sometimes the reason a person is in your life takes a lifetime to uncover. Where my mom, dad and brothers are concerned, they are pillars in my life that I continually learn from and feel like their purpose is infinite.
Brian also falls in this category but our purposes are simultaneous. As he changes, so do I, so do we. We're a meteor traveling through the galaxy absorbing everything around us as we fly forward. As he teaches me something about himself, I learn more about who I am and the definition of "us" transforms.
I am thankful for the people in my life and I am thankful for me being in my own.
*I titled this blog Unexpected Beings because at some point in my life, I believed (and I guess, I still kinda do) that I am from a different planet. I am just an alien visiting earth and the people I connect with are aliens too. We are light beings temporarily living here until we return to our home planet.